It's nice to get help sometimes, but there are other times when people have been overly helpful and make it worse. There's a coffee shop I regularly go to, and they tend to know what I order. I switch between a couple sandwiches and the same drink. One barista went and asked back-to-back "X, Y, or Z?". But uh, those were two different sandwich options, so it kind of threw me off my groove. Almost everyone wants to be the most helpful when it's obvious that you're struggling to try and tell them things, and I would have greatly appreciated you asking what you did, when you did.