I know it’s hard but (respectfully), I also think this was a good interaction: you were recognized for your resilience, which is a quality so many of us develop and never give ourselves credit for. I hate that we feel so bad about ourselves. I have two boys and it would break my heart if they hated themselves for an issue that is completely NOT their fault. This was a subtle point for me to learn, but I think it’s good to feel the sadness (it’s a form of self-compassion), but the rage should be directed elsewhere. It’s not our fault, we do our best to show up every day, which is more than most people can say.