commentr/StutterJuly 27, 2020

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I mean... it sounds to me like you've succeeded. :) The idea that you need to succeed _more_ doesn't have to have anything to do with stuttering. - There's this thing we tend to do, where we try to imagine a world without a certain detail, and how history would've played out if that certain detail wasn't there. But I don't think we can really gain much insight from that. If one detail changes... who's to say other details don't also change? Think about it: The life story you've had is made up of many situations where things happened the way it did. If you imagine changing a detail... those things that happened might be up in the air too. Whatever happened, such that you ended up with what you have now, might instead play out in such a way that you didn't end up with anything of the sort at all. Or something more, sure. But what's the point in sitting around and thinking about that? Pretending like more succes would automatically happen if one detail was changed is an illusion on its own - you just need to move the perspective around to realize that. - If you feel there's something more you should be doing... go do it. Or else, figure out why you keep feeling like there's something more you should be doing. Don't present your stutter to yourself as if it's this one thing that's in the way and keeping you from "all the riches in the world". It's not. It's something that's in your life, and you're the one deciding what that's going to mean over time. That's an ongoing process. - You see what I mean?

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Identity & DisabilitySocial & Relationships

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Identity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & PrideQuality of Life