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Not sure where to go from here Sorry for the long post, but I have a lot I'd like to get off my chest. First, I've had a stutter all my life. It comes and goes, and I can even remember days where I didn't stutter at all. As a kid, I would attend speech therapy, but I never found that the techniques they taught me really helped to improve my fluency. My parents would always try to echo what I learned in therapy, telling me to "slow down" whenever I got hung up on a word. It never worked. I quit speech therapy and forged my own path, using self-taught techniques to cope with the disorder. In High School, I barely stuttered at all. I couldn't explain why. Class presentations, friends, meetings with teachers, everything was all good. I had never been so fluent in my speech, Then, however, I went to college, and felt like I was in the same old rut I used to be. Class presentations scared me, meeting new people terrified me, and even simple tasks like talking on the phone made me want to cry. All this new anxiety brought my stutter back to the forefront of my life, and I found it to be the worst it had ever been. I considered going back to speech therapy, but remembered that it didn't help me much the first time, and ended up just riding it out until I graduated. Then came the job interviews. During my first job interview, my stutter decided to be the worst it's ever been. I'm pretty sure the interviewer thought I was crazy, because I couldn't say a single word without getting hung up on the first letter for 30 seconds or more. This is when I realized something needed to change. I realized that, behind all the severe stuttering, was a ton of anxiety I had been pushing aside for years. I finally decided to see a doctor, and she gave me a prescription for Xanax to help calm my nerves. For the first time in a long time, I felt some relief. I was making calls at work, ordering through drive-thrus, doing all the things I hadn't done in quit sometime. However, one problem remains. I can't seem to open up about my speech impediment with anyone. Of course, all my close friends and family have known that I have a stutter, but I have never directly addressed it. I don't know what to do. It feels awkward regardless. Even in my last relationship, I was unable to confide in my boyfriend that I had a stutter. He knew I had one, of course, but I could never open up to him about it, and it ended up costing me the relationship. So, I came here today with a question. How do you talk with others about your stutter? And further, would anyone like to talk with me? I could really use a friend to discuss this with. I don't know a single other person who is going through what I've gone through my entire life, and having someone be able to relate to my problems would make me feel a whole lot better, I think. Anyways, I appreciate any/all who read this post. It was a huge step for me just to post this in the first place.