>you either choose to suppress these, or you choose to channel these I actually think this is far too simplistic a description of what emotional reactions are all about. :) But I'm not trying to argue with you, honestly. I just prefer talking about ourselves in a way that makes it much more a matter of habit and/or focused effort, to behave like anything. And also, I don't want you to feel anger. I want you to know yourself in a way that makes you feel more comfortable even when things are shit. It's not about "100% behavioral control". It's just about fostering other reactions, other behaviors, other moods. :)