commentr/StutterJuly 6, 2025

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Disclose enough to let people know what's going on. The point is to kill the "i'm not sure what's that long pause mean" panic on their side, and the "shit shit shit shit what if they find out" panic on your side. "i have a stutter. so when I seem to pause and frown out of nowhere, that's what that is." interviewer: "understood. genuine query... what should I say to my boss when she asks me why I chose someone like you?" "you chose me because you like me and I'm good at what I do? I guess?" interviewer: "Your response to my query is your own two queries... Now we have three queries in the air.... this conversational pattern is wrong.... and makes me angry and want to eat lots of sugar...." "you chose me because I'm good and you like me. And because I am the guy who can adapt to your feedback." interviewer: "understood. genuine query number 2.... how do you resolve conflicts?" all kinds of unexpected turns can happen in an interview. Easier to handle them when "what if they" is not on your mind.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacySchool & Work

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringSelf-Advocacy & BoundariesEmployment & Career

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propositionality