postr/StutterMarch 30, 2017

First post, seeking advice

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First post, seeking advice Hello stuttering friends. This is my first post here; I just wanted to share my experience/ask for some advice. So. I am 21 and in college. When I was young, my stutter was terrible. So so so bad. I could hardly speak. I went to therapy for several years and it helped quite a bit. I went through phases of coping methods: tapping was most effective for me and I still use it now. My stutter is (to my knowledge) a bit uncommon. When talking with strangers, I hardly stutter at all. With people I am more comfortable with, I stutter like crazy. My family gets it worst. My mom is impatient with it lately, as soon as I get blocked she says "what?" or "come on", which is super annoying obviously cause I can't help it. Once she said "ugh I know it's hard but try to get through it" and I snapped at her because she doesn't know and her insinuation that I am not trying is ridiculous. When people try to talk to me about it I get very emotional, it's a super sensitive topic for me and I've attached a lot of anxiety to it as a whole. An irritating exception to the stranger rule is when I am asked very common questions. Namely, my major. Anyone asks me my major, I clam up and get so blocked, it take several minutes to get it out. Then I am embarrassed and can't focus on the rest of the conversation because I'm just thinking about how stupid I must seem. As with most peoples', it is worse when I am stressed which feels like all the time because college. I guess I just want to know if there is anything I can be doing. It sucks to stutter all the time around my family. My friends have been really supportive about it and have helped me talk about it a little bit. The biggest issue is working through answering those common questions I'm having trouble with, because that affects meeting new people/interviews/etc. Thanks.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsSpeech & Stuttering

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionOverthinking & MonitoringShame & EmbarrassmentAnxiety & Social JudgmentDisclosure & Telling OthersPhysical Tension

Codes (4)

emotional_stateperceived_judgmentpropositionalitysocial_pressure