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Can I answer, kinda? Still improving though! I wasn't sure when it started but it's definitely since young. I have a very sheltered upbringing and rarely talks to anyone other than my family. My parents preferred that I focus more on getting good grades in exam than other things like sports, music, communication, etc. It wasn't much of a problem when I was in kindergarten since we will all just talk crap and not making much sense so it didn't really matter. I remembered one time in grade 6 tho, I got humiliated for reading an essay in front of the class and I stuttered really bad. It was awfully embarrassing. It was also the time when I noticed I have an accent in speaking because I was heavily criticized by my teacher. But even with that, I still do not aware of the importance of speaking until I went to high school where I really struggle to make good friends. I do talk, not much but just enough to answer people. I never really gotten into debates, stating my opinions, or expressing how I feel vocally. If I had to, it would be through text which is usually a huge wall of text. I knew something has to be done and I didn't know what snapped in me but one day I decided to find some part-time jobs that I had to deal with customers face-to-face. Nerve-racking for sure! But slowly, I taught myself how to speak slowly(because I HAD TO for the job)bit by bit each day. Not caring how I pronounce words with my accent. I start with a simple "Hi, how are you?" slowly and eventually I stutter less. It's more to do with your confidence tbh. I'm 24 now, I do stutter at times but if I were to compare myself now and 12 years ago, I'd say myself now would be at a better position on having a better future. I only understood how important communication is when I entered the workforce. And for a better future, strong communication skills will get you further. Since I stutter less now, I shifted my focus on trying to better my accent or at least pronouncing words properly even with the accent, expand my English vocab to better express myself at work, with my family and friends. I believe that to fully get rid of stuttering, you need to fix other small parts(there's a lot of things involved tbh. It's more than just fixing the way you speak) under the communication "umbrella" so you'll be more confident. The more confident you are, the less anxiety you'll have and eventually your stuttering will be more or less gone. I'm not sure but that's how it works for me! So to answer your questions: (1): Started at a young age and I'm 24 now. I'm still stuttering but much less than before. (2): Dedication is the key. I started talking better eventually after a long period of time. (3): I couldn't afford a therapist and also uncomfortable with that so I just searched for random YouTube videos, read articles on how to improve it and there's this book by Dale Carnegie I really recommend reading! It's useful! Also.. Focus, talk slowly, breathe. If you're like me who usually start shaking when I'm facing people, my only tip for you was instead of making direct eye-contact, look at the space in between two eyes? Idk but this will give the illusion that you're making eye contact when you're not. That eases my anxiety a bit and I'll stutter less. Also NEVER NOT FACING PEOPLE WHEN YOU SPEAK, that's the key to help stuttering or communication in general. (4): I don't think anxiety will ever go away but you can control it! (5): Refer to #3.