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Sorry its too long,but i was elaborate Stuttering is not a cross as most of us think.i know we envy the social life we could have enjoyed if we never stuttered and all that but in reality,you just have to accept your condition and decide to tweak it for a long time,long enough for it to become a habit and watch your stutter gradually fade away. I am 27, a stutterer , but it didnt stop me from becoming a doctor(not like medical was my passion) and cybersecurity expert among other jobs I've held,i won several prizes for work excellence where i work and i am sometimes amazed at how fluent i get when interacting with my patients,maybe its because of the joy i get in helping people but i found that anxiety and being conscious of your stutter makes it worse. Some days are better than others,the worse days are days i wake up and my throat fells like I've been hanging from a rope tied to the ceiling (that classic suicidal pose). In such days i usually stuttered even worse but later found out my stuttering is more of anxiety than a defect...if i could get my mind out of the fear of stuttering then i didnt stutter that much. Over years and years of documenting my stutter i already know my triggers so i worked out a solution for each trigger. -Anxiety is king: as a solution i begun with having shots of alcohol to soften my mood when i woke up,assuming i forgot to get anxious again then i would be fine the entire day.(im not a drinker but i had to try alot of alcohol till i found the best for my needs. -breathing is very necessary: Especially breathing from your diaphragm.i have 3 voices,chest (sharp),diaphragm (deep) and head (sharper than my chest voice).Now,i found my head and chest voices got me stuttering more than my diaphragm voice so i went with the deep voice.it allows me to pause and breathe whenever im about to get stuck on a certain word. This breathe control technique only works if you conquered your anxiety. -happiness: being a state of sadness fucks up my stutter even more so i found that,after taking a few shots to the point where im almost high,i feel better and lighter. Thus the anxiety rushes out the window and my breathing technique is very effective. -sleeping positions/duration:i noticed not sleeping to my satisfaction actually soothes my vocal cord to sound better.on days i was abruptly woken up i didnt stutter much even with anxiety,so i tweaked the situation to work better for me.some people sleep 8hrs/day i sleep 5hrs/day but in smaller fractions.i could take a 30min nap when opportunity presents itself every now and then and upon waking up my vocals feel free. -raising my voice increases the probability of me stuttering so im always in a cool laid back voice like Thomas shelby lol and it works for me. Being able to understand your triggers and effectively tweak them would let you accept your stutter hence allowing your confidence to grow as you make a habit of your solutions.. As a child i used to stutter so much because of the anxiety and fear of getting a good beating as a result of my stutter.my mum always hit me whenever i stuttered,"but its not something i could control so why punish me for it,you've never had it so what made you think hitting me would scare it away"..everytime i was around her i was always afraid and that made the anxiety worse,i understood if im to work on this stutter id have to separate from the family(which i did) and never did i regret it..Anyone or anything that triggers my anxiety or fear i made a habbit of detaching from them..i still keep in touch with my family tho. Take your time,figure your stutter out and live your best life.The perspectives you have today about life is probably shaped around your stuttering,forget it and become who you really have become if you didnt stutter.