postr/StutterJanuary 27, 2025

The ignorance of stuttering to the general person is actually pathetic

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The ignorance of stuttering to the general person is actually pathetic I find it kind of pathetic how ignorant some people are that I’ve met and spoken to before, some being less and some more intelligent than others. Some of the stupidest things said were never from anyone even remotely intelligent but yet I’ve had things said like “why do you speak like that?” Genuinely. A very close friend of mine and probably more intelligent than me said before how I shouldn’t play the victim and how it doesn’t fit me, how for a while when first meeting me he didn’t even realise I had a stutter, (which is true since for some reason I’m almost close to immune to my stutter until speaking with someone for a while for some reason, how weird stutters can be) but he understands how it can be hard sometimes but i should try see it as a good thing to help me, how I could work all the jobs he has done, painting this idea to me. I left out some context but he is genuinely a really good dude and is genuinely not an asshole like it may of sounded, but he is a very smart and open minded person and him saying that+how he has spoken about my stutter afterwards/before as well, I can tell there is some part of him that truly doesn’t think my stutter is as bad as it is to live with, I’m not entirely sure why I even care in the slightest what anyone thinks/says about my stutter but it still just hurts a little bit to hear/have people genuinely think this way about stuttering because of how hard it truely is to live with. I just wanted to speak my mind somewhere and this places seemed like it would understand me.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionShame & EmbarrassmentStigma & Bullying

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