I totally get it! I used to try and ready my contribution to the conversation, and then usually blurt it out, or block when I try to add it, and feel like I’ve ruined it all. Changing that allowed me to be a better listener, and to even be less anxious during conversations. Instead of thinking about what you are going to *say* next, try thinking of what you can *ask* next. It really made a huge difference in how I felt I was perceived by my peer group, and I felt less frustrated.