What's this "acceptance" thing? I wrote about the descriptional parameters you're dealing with. You're the one making yourself into "a lack of spontaneity". That's what I'm writing against. - So, read the last bit again, with this aspect in mind. >We're all more or less marred in various ways, but this is something we remain in the process of dealing with. It is not a destiny. D'you see how I'm not talking about "acceptance" as some sort of passive giving up? I'm telling you not to frame yourself, and to keep working.