Late to this but wanted to respond from the other perspective, as the partner of someone who stutters. (We got married recently, dated for about 4 years before that.) You should definitely tell her why you have been reluctant to talk to her in person. I didn’t know, before my husband told me, that stuttering can be physically hard and exhausting and painful. Like I assumed it was probably annoying and sometimes maybe embarrassing for him, but I didn’t know how physically difficult it was. I figured as long as I didn’t act mean or weird, talking to me should be fine for him (even if he stuttered a lot). I think I assume that basically it was just the same as me talking but it sounded different, if that makes sense, not that it’s actually a lot harder and takes a lot more effort and energy. So when he’d not say much to me I just assumed he didn’t want to talk to me, and honestly it was a little confusing for a while that he’d seem to not want to talk to me in person but then be friendly over text. I thought maybe he didn’t want people to know we were friends or was embarrassed of me for some reason. I just finally asked him over text if he had a problem with people knowing we were friends, and that’s why he seemed to only want to be friends over text and not in person, and that’s when he explained about how hard talking can be for him and how often he’s too tired or just doesn’t feel like dealing with it. He said that because he really liked talking to me and had a lot he wanted to say to me, he’d rather text because it’s just faster and easier for him. He explained that if we were talking in person he physically could not say even a fraction of what he could say easily over text. That made me feel better. After that we also hung out in person more because I understood why he was quiet a lot. And he did end up talking more around me over time. We do still text a lot, though, even when we’re both at home. Long way to say that you should tell her why you would rather text than talk, because she might not realize. Especially if she doesn’t care that you stutter, she might be confused about why you are so willing to text her but not talk to her. She’d probably appreciate hearing that you do like talking to her, but it’s just a lot easier in writing. Maybe also suggest doing some things together where talking isn’t so central like watching a movie or going for a bike ride.