I’ve been kind of free associating in my responses, seeing where the ideas led. I like where they led. I am not angry, except at first when your advice sounded like some internet surfer dropping in trying to make some points and kudos. I see that is not the case. To proceed… I don’t agree with your statement that 95% of the people who you (not you specifically) meet are OK with your (not you personally) stutter. Some might ignore it, but it’s not like it makes you prettier or more handsome. I assume there are instances where the stutter broke through a woman’s defenses. I think there are many more instances where, even if they were polite, the stutterer was automatically out of the running for her affections. Not all, but most. And that doesn’t make them bad people, as I get to below… You seem to think it is 90% attitude, like a fat guy at a party. Well, number one, I didn’t consider dating fat woman, at all. Period. I might have been nice to them, but no way I was going to date them and often didn’t really want to hang around them. Of course, this was when being fat was unusual. Now it’s much more common. But the point is that stuttering and being fat may have some similarities, but based on my life experience you are not helping your argument. Quite the opposite. I think most non-fat men would agree. They don’t want to date fat women. It may make me and many / most other men shallow, but it was the fact I experienced and saw all around me. Being older, and having seen quite a bit, I want to help stutters. I think attitude plays a part, as you indicate, and must be addressed, but the key thing is to hear them and validate them and maybe help them find the best path out for them. That is a combination of things depending on their situation. Speech therapy that works for them so that they are not helpless is essential in my opinion, psychological ‘therapy’ that helps them get over a negative self image and repressed anger that comes from a lifetime of having to ‘shelter in place’ is also essential, and identifying role models that show them what is possible is essential. Joe Biden is a good one. He has a significant stutter that he manages well now but was quite bad in his youth. What was positive to me about my stutter? How did it help me? First of all I’d say the negatives waaaay out balanced the positives. As for positive, I have to really fish for them but I’d say that it put me on a unique (individual) path where I might find or develop something unique, something I wouldn’t have discovered without the pain of a stutter. I still hang onto that hope.