commentr/StutterAugust 14, 2021

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hello /u/strb_86. I, 38m, software dev/manager - on Teams all day long.... sound very similar to me (basically all of what you said). I think you're doing all the right things. Love, support, acceptance, no judgement helped me thrive with all the struggles that I had. I attended a month long intensive therapy clinic when I was 12 that helped a lot. I think SLPs can help, but for myself... I have the opinion that the focus shouldn't be "not stuttering anymore" but being able to communicate and feel comfortable. As we know - sometimes you will stutter even when you do everything "right". Given your situation, and thinking your son may not "grow out of it" I would suggest reading "Out with it" by Katherine Preston - [http://katherinepreston.com/](http://katherinepreston.com/). I hate the title because I have heard that phrase more than a few times... but I think she chose an effective title to get our attention. About 4 years ago it was suggested to me by my therapist (mental health struggles - stuttering + other difficult life things). I was skeptical. She does a really good job of reframing situations that many of us go through. It may be helpful for you to have more awareness of what your son may experience. Not because you forgot, but because many of us develop our own coping mechanisms. Some of my coping mechanisms were pretty unhealthy. Your son is very fortunate to have a parent that will understand and wants to help.

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Community & SupportIdentity & DisabilityTherapy & Professional

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Validation & EmpathyIdentity & Self-PerceptionSeeking Therapy