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i’m struggling over here 😭 hi! my name is aubrey, i am 16 years old, and i’ve been struggling with my stutter for quite some time now. i can’t remember the exact age of when i got, but i got it pretty young. i didn’t stutter when i was 5 or younger: it came into my life when i got older. i’m so sick of it and just wished it would leave me alone. my dad has a stutter; but not as bad as mine. i pray every night for it to go away. i’m scared to go out to eat and order my food. i’m scared to get married. i’m scared to do anything. it’s literally stopping me from doing everything i want to do in my life. not long ago, maybe in 2022 or 2023, i was in my sister’s car with her and her husband, and i was trying to tell her something and i stuttered terribly. her husband just says “what the fuck?!” and i know he didn’t mean it in a mean way, but i still felt very embarrassed. i didn’t feel like talking for the rest of the day. that sometimes happens every now and then. i’ve tried everything. exercises. talking slowly/aggressively. breathing techniques. nothing is working. i’m even scared to talk to my family because they give me looks like they’re trying to tell me to spill it out without saying it. their faces totally say it. this has happened quite a few times. i don’t ever get embarrassed or anything when it comes to talking to my dad because he understands what’s it like to have one and be scared of trying to talk, but with everyone else: it’s super scary. and i can remember this moment all too well: i was at school sitting across the table from my friend, and i had to call on someone else for an answer, and i knew her name but because of my stutter, i couldn’t say her name so i just asked her “what’s your name again?” and she sounded so confused, she goes, “kadence?” i felt so awful, she could’ve been thinking how the hell does she not know my name? we’ve been friends for years?! i think about when i’m gonna get married, i’m gonna have to say my vows in front of people, i originally didn’t want to say any vows because of the stutter but now i do (i have them written down 😭) i originally just wanted to say “i do” to make my stutter not appear. it’s not only the fact i have one, but because i’m talking in front of everybody: it would make my stuttering worse. now, it’s only certain words i have trouble saying, not every single one, but it still pains me that i have one. i wish i never had it; and it’s a genes thing, i got it from my dad. it scares me to death because there’s no cure for this, and i’ve seen people say that you may not outgrow your stutter. people on here have said they’ve stuttered their whole life, i don’t want that to be me. if there’s a cure for everything else, why can’t there be a cure for stuttering? i think about this stuff EVERY DAY. it scares me. it’s gonna make me have trouble making new friends. getting into a relationship, and etcetera. it’s fucking insane!! please, if anyone has the answers, please feel free to reach out! anything helps, i’m sending all my love! 💓