Bruh your life depends on 2 things, you and the people around you. You can control both of them (you can't always choose the people around you tho), so i might suggest you to find some people who will accept you as you are. If it worked for me i'm pretty sure it'll work for you as well. Also about the kids, it's your choice if you wanna have them or not (consider all the cons and pros and talk about it with your partner as soon as you're officially in a serious relationship)