>It sounds like you are driven to blaming your stutter for your current lack of success with women. I mean, you do know that there are peer reviewed studies about the negative social perceptions associated with stuttering? Stuttering isn't the whole picture, but pretending it isn't an obstacle is being a metaphorical ostrich with its head in the sand. >Such a shame to be determined to be unhappy when there are women all around you who will gladly prove you wrong. I definitely agree, but as the OP notes, dating with a quality relationship in mind is hard to start with. Noting that stuttering can make something like a quick bar pick up harder is realism, not defeatism. >I know women who are attracted to men horribly scarred by fire, as well as men who are unkempt or in trouble with the law or are massive nerds. Yes, we all know people who date massively down, like successful women who keeps dating bums. Are they anomalies or the rule? Generally, [people want to date those they are roughly equal to](https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/in-the-end-people-may-really-just-want-to-date-themselves/) in terms of attractiveness, socio-economic status, etc. and the same ethnicity, etc. >Friends and spouses tend to be similar in a broad range of characteristics, such as age, educational level, race, religion, attitudes, and general intelligence. - [Birds of a Feather Do Flock Together](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0956797616678187) Edit I don't see stuttering as dating down as it's more of a subjective experience than something that can be measured, like oncome disparity. A stutter can be cute. The point there was arguing that women are attracted to anything and everything just isn't true for the vast majority of women.