commentr/StutterOctober 16, 2017

Content

Hey, I too am a stutterer, and have too had trouble being open with my family about the way I speak. At the end of the day, as horrid as it sounds, we will never be able to completely stop stuttering, it’s quite depressing but that’s life for people like us I guess haha. Instead, we need to learn to live with it, and the first step is to accept it. The only way to accept ourselves as stutterers is to disclose with people and be open about our speech. It is hard, I’ve been working on it throughout this year (by just talking about it openly with friends or telling someone I’m on a first time date with about it), but it has been immensely beneficial to my life. Disclosing with your family is one of the best things you can do. They are your key support group in life, and usually, most families will stand by you and be with you no matter what, so you really shouldn’t have much to lose. Either start off just talking about it with one of your parents, usually the one you feel a lot more closer too (for me it was my mum) and depending on how you feel about it, move onto the next one. As for worry, they really won’t give a shit about it, but they will give a shit about you though, because you’re family, if that makes sense haha. I try to be very open about my speech with my family, and I let them know that I’m still working on it. When I catch up with them on the phone, I also try to practice speaking with a technique I learnt called the McGuire technique, so yeah they are well aware that I still have my impediment and am working on it. You mention wishing to seek a speech therapist, and I hate to make a plug, but I would really recommend checking out the [McGuire Programme](www.mcguireprogramme.com). They are an international group (I joined in Australia, back in February this year), and the programme has been a tremendous help for myself and my journey of overcoming my stutter. When I say overcoming I’m actually meaning to take control of. Many times my sister has told me that when she thinks of me, she never thinks of me as someone who has a stutter, which is the same for many other people in the world. People, like cashiers, may give you weird looks in public if you come to a fault, but that’s because they aren’t educated about stuttering and five minutes after you leave you are completely removed from their mind. I’m guessing this is the same for you with your friends, they really don’t give a shit that you stutter, but they do care about you and will see to your help about it because they are your friends, if that makes sense. Hope this helps, and makes sense, I’m writing this on a mobile just after waking up from a night shift, so I'm hoping I've read your question correctly haha. Good luck!

Themes

Social & RelationshipsTherapy & ProfessionalIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Disclosure & Telling OthersTherapy ExperiencesAcceptance & Pride