Step #1: Throw any expectations out of the window. 'Will I be fluent or not?' 'Will I ever be a social person?' 'Will I ever do this or that?'. Forget all of that. Your only goal now it's to become the best person you can be personally. That's it. That HAS TO BE your goal. Step #2: Generating a new mindset. This is the tricky part, and a lot of parts will play in here. Firstly I suggest you try setup to see a psychologist, but make sure you find the right one, if that means trying a few before you get there, that's okay. They will help you along this journey. Get a journal, write out what your mindset is now, everything you do and think on a day to day basis, how you view yourself, different people, and the world as a whole. Pick out the flaws, the flaws are going to be the things that are in any way negative, if you can't find this out yourself, your psychologist will help. Then, write out goals of where you want to be with yourself. NOT YOUR SPEECH. Not fluency, not socially. Just yourself. You're going to be giving up parts of yourself that make you feel safe and comfortable, but might not make you happy. And that's a good thing, you may not see it at the time, but in the long run you'll see why. Step #3: Goals. I'd recommend thinking about a few of these, I only recommend because they worked for me, and generally if your read success stories, this is what you'll see. Your #1 goal should be to become the best person possible. After that, it's up to you. Step #4: Begin to work on yourself, here's some of the things I did, and things I saw other successful people do. Get fit and healthy: go to the gym, or go running, whichever suits you best, have it in your interest to actually want to do this though, don't just do it because I'm telling you. Eat healthy in the process, plant based foods are best, get your blood tests taken and ensure you're balanced on everything. Continue to eat well. Get better at what you're already good at: Whether it be your work, or your hobbies, invest a set time everyday where you practice or research into these things, keep it up every day and always insure you find time. A meditation practice: DON'T SKIP THIS ONE. When people see meditation it's like something that people automatically skip over. Meditation is what helped me the most out of anything on this list. Why? It eradicated my depression and anxiety, I found myself more calm and collected. You find control over your thoughts and your body. If you want to learn more, which I really hope you do, check out /r/Meditation, lots of info there. It doesn't have to be spiritual if you're not into that, mindfulness meditation is actually proven by science to reduce activity in the frontal cortex of the brain, this is where depression, anxiety and overthinking comes from. What I must say about this is, you need to keep it up every day for it to work. Make it part of your daily routine by either doing it in the morning or before you go to bed. Become selfish about self improvement. Take 6 months or a year to really concentrate on yourself and improving yourself. During this time, some people might be pushed away, but I can guarantee that the people who don't support you in doing this are those who are actually a negative influence in your life. Remove negative influences from your life. Watch too much TV? Sell it. You may be thinking now "Fuck that" but seriously, that thing eats up too much of our lives. Spend too much time on reddit? Cut down. Listen to depressive music? Try some more positive stuff. Are you friends with people who are always complaining or just always talking negatively? Begin to think whether they're worth weighing you down. Surround yourself with as much positivity as possible, it makes your progression much easier. When you've mastered some of the above, you should think about moving outside of your comfort zone and challenging yourself. Make it a game. Talk to people, order food for yourself, make phone calls, etc, etc. With a new mindset, stuttering in front of people will begin to feel as if you're exposing it more and making it weaker rather than letting it win by not talking at all. Take baby steps in this regard though, slow is fine. But as they say, life begins outside your comfort zone, and it's honestly so true. I'm becoming desensitized to my stutter and how people react. I am really developing a strong 'I don't care mentality'. But it has taken time, and a lot of effort to get there. Over time, your stutter becomes less of an issue to you. You're too engrossed in your hobbies and your health and you don't really think about it. Keep inspired by the progress you've made. You could always try speech therapy again, or even try the McGuire programme (I would recommend this one a lot) in the mean time and see how that goes. BUT keep your focus on what I've mentioned above. Over time, with everything I said above combined, you'll start to care less about how people think and how people react to you. Why? Because you'll learn to respond to them in a way that benefits you only. It's a tough process, and you gotta learn to be tough on yourself and really try to be disciplined about your life. You're going to lose parts of you in the short term, whether it be parts of your personality or friends, but you'll gain much more in the long term. I personally gained a better sense of self, I feel happy and content with where I am in life, I have more friends now due to me getting involved in more hobbies and such, I have control over my life, I still stutter, but it's improved a lot on it's own because I have stopped avoiding and started forcing myself into situations that I wouldn't have before. There's a lot more to it than that, [here's a video that really helped me though initially.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXjMrJ3KoVQ) I recommend you watch that video and watch a few others from his channel. His titles are a bit click-baity but that's only because he really really wants to help people. He really helped me to get started. [Here's a video that only came out recently but really explains a good philosphy for not caring about how others think or react to you.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3kp5_aLbIWo) Try to watch it through full if you can, some of it might not be relevant but most of it is. Other resources: * [The Headspace app is a great place to learn how to meditate](https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app) * [Insight timer to help keep up a daily meditation practice, it also has a huge community which you can find guidance from.](https://insighttimer.com/) * [Infinite Water's channel helped me a ton, he's hard to get used to be the more you get into his videos the more you'll see he's quite refreshing](https://www.youtube.com/user/Kemetprince1) * [This article is worth a read](http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/starting-today-stop-these-6-things-become-the-best-version-yourself.html) * [If you deal with depression, check out this video. I know, he's a bit of a hippie, but once you get over that the video is quite insightful.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yrVj6ABZMqM) I had to type this up in about an hour so there's going to be a lot of mistakes and such, but please, please send me all the questions and queries you have. I really want to help, I hate seeing people struggle when there's a way out! Much love to you!