commentr/StutterSeptember 1, 2020

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Posted in another thread a few weeks ago. Relevant still. Hi there. I’m 37. I’ve stuttered my entire life. I have gone through what you have gone through and then some. I will tell you unequivocally I have experienced the same rage in emotion that you feel and have felt. I am telling you it is normal. You are normal. It is absolutely NOT a brain deficiency. EINSTEIN STUTTERED. There is ZERO evidence it’s a deficiency at all. It is not even medically classified as a disability. There is NOTHING wrong with you. And in a way, this is going to build character and make you into a stronger person. All the teasing and bullying you are being subjected to will end one day very soon. You have more friends than you know. You hVe a friend in me and if you’re willing to reach out and talk I would be more than happy to listen and offer you advise. Next time you stutter into a word or sentence... LEAN INTO it. It will reset you. Take a second and stop. Just stop. And then almost say the words in a rhythm. Use your hands to show the flow. You will be fluent. I can not stutter when I sing, whisper, yell, talk in a voice that isn’t my own such as a low voice, or speak in a pattern that makes my words flow like some sort non rhyming poem. There isn’t a cure for this. This isn’t a disease. It is not a mental illness. There is NOTHING wrong with you. You are a great person. The girls you ask out now aren’t going to be the ones who will be worth your time come a little later. You will find yourself inundated with positivity. OWN your stutter. I did. And I had it ROUGH just like you. You have a friend in me. I know therapy doesn’t work for everyone. I rejected mine and I reject it now. I simply don’t go. But I find myself having better days than worse ones. And I have the occasional day where I can’t get a word out. It’s frustrating. But I am nearly fluent every day. I wasn’t always like this. As a young boy you couldn’t understand me. I bet it’s you right now. Next time you’re teased or bullied by those who make fun of you for stuttering... walk away. Find that friend in class who likes you for who you are. Talk to them. Don’t be afraid to stutter around them. They are the ones not judging you. And they may become your best friends for life. Popularity is meaningless. Your stutter is a super power. You just don’t know it yet. In time you will. It is secretly making you one tough ass mother fucker. I’m here if you need someone to talk to. A random internet stranger who has stuttered all his life. You got this. The mere fact that you are reading this in your fluent internal voice that doesn’t stutter is all you need to know. In a way you see the words before they’re even spoken. Your brain is in overdrive. You have a higher IQ than most. You are going to be a force to be reckoned with. It started for me around 15/16. You’re nearly there. Start now. Get angry at it. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes. OWN IT. Do not give a damn what others think. I know it’s hard. But the people who make fun or reject you.... you won’t know them much longer. Own it. You’ll overcome it in no time. And as stupid as it sounds.... most people, including myself, simply began/begin to outgrow it. You got this.

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Causes & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Stress & Fight/FlightSituational VariabilityPropositionality & WeightHope & MotivationAcceptance & PrideStigma & Bullying

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