commentr/StutterMarch 9, 2023

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* I have met a number of people who found almost 100% fluency in adulthood. One learned to speak to a rhythm he would surreptitiously beat out with his foot. Another left a very dysfunctional home and with support from a speech therapist became fluent. Another man became so furious one time when being ridiculed for his stuttering that he yelled at the people in rage (of course with perfect fluency.) Something about that event was empowering to him and his dysfluency was largely eliminated. Pres. Biden, of course, learned to manage his stuttering exceptionally well. He read poetry aloud and practiced daily. So take heart. Your stuttering is something that, as others have said, may not be eliminated 100% but it can be much more manageable. It may even become so mild as to be undetectable. * The paradox with stuttering is the harder you try to be fluent the more dysfluent you are. When a person who stutters can let go and let it be, and accept themselves as they are, speech becomes so much more fluent. (You aren't dysfluent talking to yourself alone are you? That's because the there's no struggle to be fluent when talking to yourself.) * From my experience as a speech therapist, negative practice, or INTENTIONALLY stuttering, is the most effective strategy to improve fluency. Start "practicing" stuttering in your room by yourself. You might feel foolish, but just do it. Then practice with trusted friends or family. Next go to a store and intentionally stutter. I tell my fluency students that the more you confront the stuttering 'monster,' the smaller and weaker it gets and it no longer can bully you anymore. If you bravely intentionally stutter--especially in public--you will eventually become desensitized to fear of stuttering. Then be sure to make a concerted effort never to avoid speaking because of dysfluency fears. You might challenge yourself to raise your hand and answer one question in each class daily. * The objective is NOT to FIGHT the "monster," (which results in more struggling and dysfluency,) or to run from it and avoid speaking, but to stand beside it, walk around it and recognize it's only power is fear.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Avoidance & SubstitutionVoluntary Stuttering & ExposureHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride