Unfortunately overall but fortunately in this situation where you aren't being found out: all women have to do in order to blend into the background is be pretty(for their culture/setting) and quiet for the most part.  You're not 'bad' for this or anything but you probably visibly meet or appear to meet societies expectations for women and this may be helping you for sure. I can't imagine not being bullied at school as a kid or being able to go more than a year at a job without being openly made fun of by the public or someone trying to fire me just for "talking like this". I thought it was hard finding a job as a female stutterer as a youth, now over 30 it's even more difficult because it seems like no one wants to hire plain women over 25 or even women who don't spend 3hrs getting made up to work at a cash register even, if they can help it.  Some of us have other disabilities or aspects about us that make it otherwise impossible to hide otherness or disability. Also women are judged more openly for each of our cultures expectations we fail to meet. This is why women "don't go out without their face on" and other bashful things. I was just going to say r/humblebrag but that might not have come across.