I have no answer to your question, there are already some in the thread, but i will try to explain why it's not important at all to lose your virginity. 1) 1st time will be most likely awful. You will be so stressed out, you'll have no idea what to really do, you'll be too focused on technique or trying not come too early etc. IT WILL SUCK, you won't be able to enjoy it properly. 2) It doesn't make you an adult, a man, it doesn't magically change anything. I've been browsing asexual subreddits lately, and there are plenty of people who lose their virginity in they late 20s or later. I know this may not seem relevant to you, since i am assuming you're straight, but they face the same pressure from society. 3) You probably want to do this with a loving partner, otherwise you'd just hire hooker like some suggested. Then you should focus more on the emotional side of relationships, because it is not guaranteed that your sexual partner will have the same feelings towards you. Btw, I am 20 years old, virgin, and happy with it. I am not 100% sure if I am asexual or straight, but I used to care about it as well until I started to question my sexuality.