The inability to speak, to live a normal, average life, this starts at school, when you are perceived as "shy, quiet," and what am I supposed to be? J since I can't speak fluently? If you volunteer to answer then you are ridiculed, so you avoid class activities, you avoid social interaction, making friends, you have social anxiety, so you have no friends, no girlfriend. You are lonely. So that 1 thing would be just that basic human interaction, saying good morning, introducing yourself, small talk, giving a compliment and talking.