My greatest piece of advice

My greatest piece of advice My greatest piece of advice.. Stop focusing on improving fluency. That peice of advice has allowed me to live the life I have dreamed. And that's not an exaggeration. I would literally dream about the life I'm living now. Traveling the world, speaking and coaching for a living, having new vibrant experiences every week at 23 years old. At 18 years old I wouldn't never thought this was possible. Because "my stutter was holding me back". Because I was attaching my self worth to my stutter. Not just that though, I was attaching my future projections to not being able to speak fluently. Thinking the only jobs I can have is sitting behind a desk and not speaking to anyone. I had so much shame and embarrassment attached to the way I spoke.. because I was focusing on fluency. The thing that changed it all was when I realized why I was having such a good fucking time when I was on "fluent days". I initially always chalked it up to speaking without stuttering as much. But it went much deeper than that. I could express myself freely. I wasn't filtering my words before speaking them. I wasn't in my head. I was grounded, open, sharing, in my body and most importantly, authentic. That's why I enjoyed those "fluent" days the most. I could express myself how I always wanted to but never had the ability. At least I thought. Through my years of becoming the most authentic version of myself, I realized I can still be authentic when I stutter. I just had to learn to let that be apart of me. I had to befriend my stutter. I had to no longer resist it. Now it's the greatest thing that ever happened to me because I no longer fear it. It no longer gives me anxiety, embarrassment, shame etc. It's a totally accepted part of me. Now that my relationship with my stutter has changed, I'm able to get the free authentic feeling regardless of what severity it's at. And the crazy thing about this, is my stutter rarely shows up anymore, and if it does it very minimal and quick to go away. It only stays when you're resisting it. It fades when you're indifferent. But it all start with YOU stopping the fascination of fluency. The real gold is living authentically whether you stutter or not. I promise that will grant you the fulfillment you're looking for 🙏