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Plenty. I am spitballing here as it comes to mind: \- Don't finish their sentences, unless during a crucial moment and they are hung up, and then finish their sentences. They will appreciate it. I would \- Understand that they cannot be social all the time. There will be times when they will hesitate to speak up. Encourage but don't force. \- No need to fight their battles. If they order at a restaurant and the waiter laughs at them, just pat them on the back and say, 'hey, it's alright, the waiter was a dick'. No need to go to the waiter and clash over it. Stutters have seen worse but these incidents still bums us out. A little pat of support will feel nice. \- There will be times when they will get hung up on word for *long ass time.* Like for 10-15 seconds. Let them finish. Remove eye contact but pay attention. Keep your facial expression neutral. Don't be encouraging or pretend to be calm or whatever. Just pretend like they are taking normally and let them finish. \-Don't tell them their stutter is cute. I cannot roll my eyes harder at that statement than physically possible. \- Always give an option to take charge of social interactions but don't do it out of sympathy. Just casually ask if you they want to give the order or shall you? \- When you are introducing them to your friends/family/social circle. A little heads up to your group will be nice. Don't catch them off guard. But don't put your partner down for it while telling them they stutter. Just say, 'hey, my SO stutters, he trips over words sometimes, don't be a dick about it'. As much as we would like otherwise, people who have not experienced someone stutter *can* find it hilarious when someone stutters in front of them. Even I have found it funny (and sometimes I even laugh at my own stutter). It's normal. Not everyone does it maliciously. Some don't even understand the concept of stutter and think we are doing it to annoy them like a prank. \- Don't highlight their stutter all the time or at all. It's part of our lives we have learned to live with. The more attention you bring to it, the more they will get nervous around *you*. You don't want that as a lover. You should be their safe space, not a place where they have to watch themselves all the time. \- Don't, for the love of everything that's good in this world, tell them to repeat words. Or breathe before saying words. Or sing their words out. Just stop. They have learned to deal with their stutter in their own way. Don't try to help in that aspect. These are some general points. Rest you have to wing it as you get to know them and spend more time. Everyone deals with stutter in their own way, so communicate, listen and understand - both verbal and non-verbal queues.