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people pleaser and stuttering How many of you have people pleasing behaviour because of stuttering. I have it, I am trying to control this. “Just so people like me, I am doing more than I should, I am sacrificing myself.” I am seeing people are taking advantage of me and I am still doing their work and blaming myself. It is like I am trying to compensate for my stuttering. Since childhood, lack of relationships and love makes my mind to think I have to do more for acceptance. I have seen that When I stopped putting more effort and just giving same effort as other person is giving, that person just don't care and stop talking with me. Small example like I am asking for health to my coworker everyday asking how is doing, he talk with me but If didn't ask Frist "how are you" that person don't even look at me. and I have many of those. After changing the country for study, I met more bad people than good. I got new Job a year ago, and my stuttering got really bad, most of the people here just ignores me, like I am doing nice things for everyone, being nice to everyone, and when time comes for them to be nice to me, they don’t. one thing I learned that don’t be nice to everyone, consider “being nice” as gold, only spend on those who worth it.