I went to the national stuttering convention a few years ago and talked to lots of women. The statistic that I found surprising is that women who stutter are less likely to get married than men who stutter. And talking with women through the convention it was told to me that women are more critical of themselves than men are. And if you think about the conversation you had with the gentleman it tracks. Here you are analyzing things while all that guy saw was “pretty girl”. His value system only goes skin deep while yours is an ocean. Anecdotally my wife takes 3 hours to get ready for a fancy night out while I take 10 minutes. Men have the privilege to exists as they are, flaws and everything while women are under constant pressure to be perfect. (For any man that reads this and starts replying with “body standards for men blah blah blah. Shut up. I don’t want to hear it you will be posting to the void cause that shit ain’t getting read) My thoughts on pretty privilege are: being attractive gets you in the front door but to stay in the building , you need substance. So don’t look at it as being reduced to your looks. Your looks gets you the initial interest of men, but to hold that interest and turn it into a relationship takes everything else inside of you that makes you you. The real danger of living in a society that values looks is that people who are very attractive can (and do) gain a false sense of self worth. Society can set you up to fail big time if you’ve coasted on your looks. The last thing I want to add is my experience as a conventionally attractive man. Throughout my school years I had a lot of girls express their interest in me. I was always pursued by someone. But I was so shy because of my stutter I would turn most of them down. It’s something I regret as and adult. But just being attractive did not make my love life easier. I still had to battle my self esteem. For boys the social hierarchy is different. Athletic ability and charisma is valued higher than attractiveness. I was athletic (football team, wrestling team) so I always had a group of friends.