commentr/StutterSeptember 13, 2023

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Our stories are quite similar. I'm 30 right now, though, and found the perfect woman for me 6 years ago, and we have our first child together since a year ago. If I could give you advice, or to my younger 20yo self, I would tell myself all will be fine if you just let go of your fear of stuttering. The moment I decided to ask my wife out, was the moment my life took a whole other route than I ever thought was possible for me as a stutterer. I first wanted to NOT ask her out, due to my insecurities about my stuttering and lack of job experience due to my stutter anxiety. I felt was a nobody. I still decided otherwise, for the first time ever, to simply be ME. I liked her so much, that I felt I had to give it a try, or otherwise potentially be sad the rest of my life. We went on our first date, I didn't put up a mask or fake personality (I did sometimes hide my stutter, but she knew I was a stutterer, as I told her beforehand) and it was amazing. From that day on, we saw each other every day. She was very successful and independent in life already, but still, beyond all the materialistic things, she saw something in me, a self-proclaimed nobody who stutters. She 100% does not care I stutter and is literally the most supportive person I could imagine. They exist. They are out there. You simply need to let go of fears and explore and open up. If some women don't like you because of your stutter, move on right away. D9n't hate them for it, but simply move on. That one special woman who DOES like you is out there waiting. You just need to open up and let go of things. Follow your passion(s) in life in the mean time. It makes a person happy. Happy people view the world much more positively. Not trying to sound as if you come across as unhappy. Sorry if I come across like that. Life will be soooo much more fun and interesting once you learn to drop all sorts of fears. Hope this helps a bit!

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride

Codes (3)

socializing_one_on_oneemotional_stateperceived_judgment