Yea, it’s like I used to not have any expectations for myself, in socializing or anything, up until I was about 14 years old. It’s not that I had low expectations for myself, it’s just that I literally didn’t even know the concept of having expectations for myself. I barely even paid attention to what others expected of me. So after a day of socializing or doing anything, I didn’t use any introspection or reflection to judge how I did. Never. I was living in the moment and not recording anything that I was doing. But then when I met the first girl I really liked I began to feel self conscious for the first time. Long story short after building up a habit of being anxious around others, that’s when I began to go to therapy and build social skills and mindsets. Anyways, the point I’m trying to make is that yea, the more we learn about socializing, the higher our confidence goes, but also the higher our expectations may become for ourselves. And if we’re just trying to perform well in social interaction, we won’t be enjoying the moment, and thus causing more anxiety long term.