3 easily achievable tasks to complete that build conversational confidence

3 easily achievable tasks to complete that build conversational confidence Another value drop! Enjoy ❤ 3 easily achievable tasks to complete that boosts conversational confidence  What do I mean by this? I mean during my process to overcome my stutter I have found that there have been certain goals/tasks that once achieved, I automatically feel a lot more confident to speak to strangers, coworkers, family, friends, authority figures etc.  ➡️ Being confident is about momentum.  ⛔It's NOT about just doing 1 technique or saying this 1 thing..  It's about showing yourself that you have value to give and other people's judgements will not kill you. Once you internally understand this, confidence to speak comes.  The first thing to understand is these tasks are building momentum to achieve a certain state of being. The state of being is: feeling safe to express yourself freely, being anxiety/worry free and being completely out of your head and in your body while speaking.  So let's begin, ✅ #1: Setting an intention before you start speaking I’ve had this many times where clients would come to me after taking an awesome action and pushed themselves but they feel like they could've done better. They would start nitpicking the interaction or the conversation and eventually snowball themselves down to a negative state where now they feel like a failure.  Listen, you cannot control everything. All you can control are your actions and if you are unclear of what you would like to develop in the interaction, and you just go in, you will always find a way to sabotage yourself afterwards which of course will NOT build momentum.  You must start by choosing 1 or 2 intentions to begin with and if you fulfill it, nothing else matters, you won! Builds momentum.  Pro tip: Never have an intention of “be fluent” that will only hurt you & your progress.  ✅ #2: Be a good listener Now this task may sound counter intuitive..  “Chase, you don't want me to speak now? How am I going to practice??” This is where the mainstream and I don't agree.  I don't believe you have anything wrong with your speech. I believe if you have the ability to speak fluently in 1 situation, that means you have the ability to speak fluently in all situations. It's about understanding our bodies, the way we act and feel when holding onto tension/stress/anxiety that determines if we stutter or not.  I believe the best thing we can do for ourselves and our speech is to stop the constant hype about it.  If we believe that all we need is to be able to speak fluently, then people will like us, and we will be “1 in the group like everyone else” that's bs.  All we need is presence. We must be present, we must be in our body. When we are worrying about how we sound, if we stutter or not, we are not being present and we are being a terrible listener because all we are thinking is about ourselves.  I remember when I used to be so insecure about my speech I would be the most selfish person in the room. Finding ways to prove my self worth, finding the exact words to say that I wont stutter on, listening to respond, not listening to understand. I was not present.  Once we become present and we listen to understand, we take ourselves out of our head so we can actually provide value to the other person, even if we stutter. Builds momentum.  ✅ #3: Put yourself in the right state mentally prior to speaking.  You must understand your capabilities of working on your speech in the moment is limited to how you feel.  If you are in a very low, negative state, it is extremely hard to be conscious enough to take the right actions when stuttering. If you are in a more positive state, your ability to cope with stuttering and your ability to handle tension/stress/anxiety skyrockets.  Stuttering is very much in the mind but you must also realize the mind and body are connected. If your body is tense, your mind is going to get that signal, flooding you with negative thoughts and doubts causing you to stutter more.  I and everyone I work with do specific exercises every single day to release tension in the body so that our mind becomes clearer and more resilient to handle the pressures of the world. Builds momentum.  These 3 tasks are easily achievable and it has made a world of difference to my life.  Once you start building momentum in the right direction you start gaining the confidence to speak without resistance. It's extremely freeing.  I hope you take this seriously..  Let me know if you’ve tried anyone of these and want some tweaking if it didn't build momentum inside of you.  Much love.