>Telling OP “hey even if you didn’t have a stutter you wouldn’t even be that great anyways” is so pointless and unproductive. I appreciate your feedback but this is not what I was saying. It is important to ground your expectations in reality. It is a trap to think that your life would be completely different only if X. "If I wasn't in this wheelchair I would have been an Olympic athlete." "If I didn't have a stutter I would light up any room I enter." It is a path to depression and I feel the thought is flawed. There are lots of fluent people who wish they could "light up any room". A stutter isn't holding them back. I think it is important that these types of thoughts are challenged. If they aren't then you risk setting impossible barriers for happiness. People will struggle to find contentment and they risk blaming their condition for things that they can partially fix themselves. My comment is not about whether you are great or have the capacity to be great. Is about challenging those negative thoughts. Probably a bit off-topic... I have often struggled in social situations. In my opinion, this is not because of my stutter. It is how I handle living with my stutter. I sometimes let anxiety get the best of me and choose not to talk. I sometimes swap a word that makes less sense. Historically I have avoided the phone. These are choices that I have made. With my stutter, I could have chosen to behave differently. A person that stutters can be a great inventor, they can be a president, they can have a tonne of friends. It requires more effort but others have done it. Nothing is stopping us individually. I just worry that some people set their level of expectation too high and struggle to see the accomplishments they are making and struggle as a result.