Kind of a cringy dominant-patriarchal overtone here that being a muscular bro will win women over and make them want your masculine energy, I think that's a bit much and pretty demeaning towards women-- BUT your underlying message of being confident and not letting your disability govern your life, is very true and I've found a lot of meaning in that in my own experience. However I don't think you need to GET JACKED AT THE GYM to do that, although working out is a great stress reliever and confidence booster.