3 Reasons having a stutter can be attractive

3 Reasons having a stutter can be attractive For men who stutter: 3 reasons stuttering can be attractive to women I'm writing this to the men right now as I believe what attracts women to men is not the same as what attracts men to women, biologically.  In my experience of being super ashamed of my stutter for most of my life and hiding away from all interactions. To being completely open and vulnerable when I speak, not hiding my stutter at all.. I have learned why some women love when men stutter. I'm excited to share now.. I first want to disclose that the biggest factor that dictates whether someone finds your stutter attractive is based upon the other person's emotional maturity. The next most important factor is HOW you stutter.  If you push out your words with extreme force and anxiety, then of course you will be projecting stress and uncomfortability outwardly and the other person will not feel comfortable. You must feel comfortable stuttering in order for these attractive reasons about stuttering to hold true.  So if you are not comfortable stuttering yet.. I hope this list I will share with you, will inspire you.  Let's go. #1: Security This was the first reason that came to my mind just because of how much it has played a role in my life.  When you are able to stutter openly with unwavering eye contact.. You send out to the woman that you are extremely secure in yourself. You are a rock.  Most people when doing something that is “out of the ordinary” like stuttering will hide away and repress in embarrassment. But for you to hold your frame and continue speaking after a block or stutter as if nothing happened.. That is extreme confidence.  A man that is sure of himself is incredibly attractive.  This plays a big part in allowing a woman to unravel in front of you while speaking.. You show her that you don't judge yourself in how/what you say.. The conversation becomes real and she also feels safe to express herself however she may like.  I feel it is rare to hold a space like this.  #2: Vulnerability Brene Brown talks about the #1 thing for connection is vulnerability. You cannot have a connection without it.  It's so true. It's extremely vulnerable to be able to show your real authentic self. And that's what’s beautiful about the process of becoming cool about stuttering. Not caring if you stutter or not… If you can accept your stutter, you have also accepted other parts about you that most people would normally hide due to fear of judgement.  Simply put, in the process of overcoming stuttering you learn to accept all parts about you. And you won't be afraid to show it openly.  This will of course give her the ability to be open and vulnerable and be herself just based on you going first and showing that it's a safe place to open up with you.  #3: Free of F*cks If you are accepting of your stutter, you would've had to go through a journey where you learn to not value other people's judgements the same amount.  When we are ashamed of our stutter we are also putting an absurd amount of value to how others perceive us. Once you no longer give a f*ck about your stutter, you are free to the judgements and criticisms of the people you meet.  Meaning you will no longer be speaking to please or prove yourself. You're not bothered if this person likes you or does not. You are you and you love that. This is extremely attractive and is something that is sensed from the woman within a couple seconds. Your energy will be different. How you carry yourself will be different, when and why you speak will be different.  You will stand out.  This is the 3 biggest reasons why stuttering or having a stutter can be attractive.  And just a reminder of what I said at the beginning. It's on HOW you stutter and your relationship with your speech.  If you are non accepting of your stutter, none of this applies to you.  Stuttering is the biggest superpower if you let it be.  Much Love.