postr/StutterJuly 17, 2024

The hardest thing to come to terms with as a guy who stutters

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The hardest thing to come to terms with as a guy who stutters Is knowing you most likely can’t/won’t ever be that outgoing guy who can just waltz into a room and be charismatic and playful. I’m talking like, your average stereotypical Italian American who just can light up any room with a light hearted dad joke or compliment to someone and just having that “I don’t give a damn” aura to them. Knowing that you could be like that, if it wasn’t for the stutter and everything else that comes with it (social anxiety, low self esteem, depression etc…) I could have been that person. Even though my family is small I would have been able to make friends and connections easier and not be so stuck in my own mind. I know “comparison is the thief of joy” but I feel like it’s only human nature. We’ve been comparing ourselves to other people since we were Neanderthals, and before language was ever real. No matter how many times I try to stop comparing, it just keeps coming back and I genuinely don’t think there’s any possible way to stop it besides medication (if that would even work). Maybe I’m just shouting into the void talking nonsense but I feel like on some level, you guys know where I’m coming from.

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Identity & DisabilityEmotional ExperienceSocial & Relationships

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Identity & Self-PerceptionHelplessness & AgencyAnxiety & Social JudgmentLoneliness & IsolationSadness & Hopelessness