postr/StutterFebruary 18, 2020

25 yr old male, stutterer, working in sales.

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25 yr old male, stutterer, working in sales. Hi all. I've always wanted to post on reddit about my story and just hear feedback. I'm a 25 year old male with a, I guess, light-moderate stutter. On some days, I can talk relatively freely, I know i'm stuttering over some words but i don't pay attention to it and it feels amazing. Other days, I get that anxious feeling over me, and I can't even introduce myself. Funny thing is, I work in sales and business development, which may sound like a nightmare to some stutterers. To be frank, as a kid realizing I had this impediment, i always thought i was destined for a very boring, behind the scenes type job. My dad stutters, and so do some of my male cousins, so I put the blame largely on genetics. What I found WORKS for me - I talk MUCH more smoothly: \- after a good workout, or a brisk 15 minute walk - i'm relaxed \- in quiet areas - small meeting rooms, quiet restaurants, where I can "hear" myself talk \- when I talk slower \- when i rehearse what i want to say What i find makes my stutter WORSE: \- loud areas - loud restaurants/cafeterias. In situations where the environment is loud and i can't hear my own voice, every damn fucking sentence i start with a stutter \- waiting in line gives me crazy fucking anxiety. Like, if there's a long line up at mcdonald's, i just stare blankly at the cashier and dont say anything for 10 seconds before i can get my words out. But i'm more than fine doing drive through where i bark at a little speaker, or at sit down restaurants where i can read out and point at the menu at what i want. \- i have a big problem asking for something at a loud restaurant. I can't say, " can i get a glass of water?" What i found has helped over the years: \- working out/bodybuilding made me much more confident in general \- having a relatively "large" vocabulary which allows me to replace words on the fly \- to the above point, i read a lot of books which i believe has helped my vocab \- understanding WHICH sounds you stutter on/can't say and building your own little library of synonymous words. EXAMPLE --> i can't say the word "decision" so I instead say stuff like "he hasn't made a choice" "he hasn't pulled the trigger" ​ So, I'd love to get some feedback/advice. How can I make myself feel less anxious when waiting in line? How can I talk more smoothly in loud scenarios? I wish there was a VR type thing where we could strap on goggles and be placed in these anxiety causing scenarios and we could just stutter our way through until we become smoother. ​ I look forward to connecting with yall and hope my post helped you in any way.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & Variability

Subthemes

Anticipating StutteringFeared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentOverthinking & MonitoringSeverity & Fluctuation

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ordering_service_encountersaying_name_introductionsocializing_group_sizesocializing_one_on_oneemotional_statetime_pressure