I think we just want to be accepted by everyone else. When we see that progress how we are making new friends and relationships then we start to except ourselves more because we feel more normal. To me I am deep into flirting with girls. I just wanna be able to talk smooth to them and when something doesn't go right I blame my speech and I hate myself. When something goes smooth i accept myself more and I feel happy. It's hard to start excepting yourself first on your own.