I just got married this past fall (tiny ceremony because of COVID). I was super nervous about saying my vows even in front of the small group but in the moment, my emotions took over and I wasn’t thinking about it. We are doing a large vow renewal ceremony at the venue we originally booked for the wedding (if safe) later this year and now I’m nervous for that haha. But I think you can definitely get away with not saying their name if you work that out with your officiant. Congrats!!