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I saw myself when i was reading your post. I can definitely relate with you. My stutter is mild and i don't think i have moments when it's worst (ofc the ones when i'm under pressure) , it just happens, even when i'm alone or not under pressure at all. I've never talked to anyone about it too, only my mom knows, because i'm pretty decent at hiding it with "umms" and such. I don't know what my friends think about it, but i'm pretty fluent and i don't stutter often...sometimes i put a bit too many umms. Discussing it with friends would be pretty hard. I've never gone to therapy, i only had a session one time at 10 years old or so, but i never stuttered even when the therapist made me read some parts of a book. Even now at 21 yo, i think a therapy wouldn't work on me at all, because in a "1vs1" i don't really stutter (maybe just at the beginning). It might help talking about my stutter with someone but, for me, it would be a waste of money, and i really want to try to work on it myself without the help of a therapist. I've always been anxious about my stuttering and i tend to stay alone too, now mostly because i'm used to it after doing it over the years, and i'm a bit of a solitary guy myself (not antisocial). I definitely think this is because of my stutter (and myself, that let it condition my life), it has had a big influence over the years. Without it i would be a different person but hey, what can you do about it? I think the stutterers that have it mild have an hard time accepting themselves and accepting they stutter, they try to hide it and hope no one finds them out. They know their stutter is not that bad, they know they can speak well, and when a block occurs it's very frustrating. I know that pretty well, every time i fuck up it's a punch in the stomach for my self-esteem, which is already pretty low. In a year i'll be graduating, and i will have to present my thesis in front of everyone. The thought of it scares me quite a bit, but until then i'll try to work on building up confidence by throwing myself in situations i hate, and forcing myself to speak even if i don't really want to. Think of speaking, don't worry about blocks. If they happen fuck it, the sooner you accept them, the better, you will get used to them and maybe build up a more positive mindset. I've been sitting here doing nothing for so many years, hoping for my stutter to get better; now i'm just tired of it and i need to change. Worrying won't solve anything, i've been doing it for over 10 years. You are not alone, good luck with everything! P.S: Now i have to go out to pick up an order at the bakery...hope i don't fuck up ;)