commentr/StutterOctober 8, 2016

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I just want to say that you don't have to feel like you're forced to live out your self-fulfilling prophecy of having no friends because of stuttering and social anxiety. You have a choice to stay afraid or deal with it head on. Your life as it stands right now is not yet writ in stone. It's a choose your own adventure book, but it only works if you have the balls to actually choose instead of freezing up and staying on the sidelines of Life as a fixture, a mute observer, a silent sufferer. Stuttering is not a death sentence. Stuttering is not oblivion. Yes, it sucks but you can only feel so bad about yourself for so long before it becomes a tired excuse of why you aren't living your life. Your fear is what is going to make you miss out on your life right now and all of the wonderful experiences that go with it. Then, that fear will be replaced with regret as you get older and finally realize how foolish it was to be so scared because you cannot get this time back. I stuttered like a silly bitch all throughout my life. Confidence beats out fear. All the time. Nobody said it was going to be easy. Yeah, it sucks we got dealt this hand but at least you weren't born as a poor starving baby eating sand. People are born with problems and they deal with it. Same goes for us. If you want to give up, fine. But if you want to try and live, then listen. Things can be much worse. And besides what else are you going to do about your stuttering? Being sad and angry is okay, but giving up is not. Yeah, you are right in saying that you can't do it. I can't change your mind. Only you can. Based on your conviction, of course you're right. But you are only right in this moment of time. It's not an unassailable fact that you can never do it. You can do it. You can make friends. You can have awesome sexual dalliances with girls. You can get your dick wet. It will be hard. You will hurt. You will suffer. You will be embarrassed. But you will also feel awesome. But aren't you feeling hurt and suffering and embarrassment already, anyway? I wish you could see your life from your future self's point of view, but you're just going to have to believe me that things do get better because you make them get better right now. At the end of the day, it's not you versus the world. Don't make it so grandoise and romantic in your head. No, at the end of the day, it's you versus you.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCoping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Avoidance & SubstitutionMindset shiftAnxiety & Social JudgmentHelplessness & AgencyHope & MotivationIdentity & Self-Perception

Codes (2)

emotional_stateperceived_judgment