commentr/StutterApril 10, 2020

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I haven't, stuttering never pushed me further then short-time depressions. What I can understand however is the feeling of “not having a valid reason“ for feeling down. Even in economically developed countries stuttering doesn't get any attention as a source of issues with mental health. Actually stuttering doesn't get any attention at all. The psychologist I went to never had a patient who came because of stuttering, but I have to say it helped me a lot. Talking to a mental health professional changed the way I see stuttering completely. I mean we struggle with something that comes natural for the big part of the society. Talking is something we do every day, all day. And so far we all fought through it. Sure there are better and worse times and sometimes I just felt like stuttering is taking control of my life, that it's overpowering me. But hey we are tough motherfuckers. Doesn't matter how hard the struggle may be, so far all of us made it through. Sometimes exhausted, sometimes we take away bad scars. But at the end of the day, when we lay in bed, we made it. People don't know or understand it yet, but what we acheive every day is big. Bigger than they see. And that might be why they don't understand. But we ourselves can acknowledge the struggle and realize that no matter what, we will make it. We made it in the past and we will make it today. The second, probably even more important thing is: people don't care. In my job I have to do a LOT of presentations and I used to be VERY self aware. Every time I stuttered I felt like everybody is staring at me in shock thinking “oh my god what is he doing?“ As you all know time seems to stand still in these moments, it felt like an eternity. But it's not. Not from a listener's view and that's what we seem to care about so much. People don't care it we repeat a sentence or make a small pause, the message still gets across. There are so many different ways of not speaking perfectly, stuttering is just one of them. The weird faces people sometimes (!) make when we stutter are just because they didn't come across a person who stuttered to them in a long time and they don't know how to interpret it. Hell I often don't know if somebody is stuttering or just having a hard time articulating him/herself at the moment. And there you have it not speaking perfectly is the most normal thing in the world. (Sorry not english native)

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Hiding & ConcealmentNeurological & BrainStress & Fight/FlightAnxiety & Social JudgmentHope & MotivationMedicalization / Neurodiversity