Huh? Obviously women and men have different dating standards, that wasn't mean to be demeaning at all, just a fact... Men are usually expected to initiate, and confidence is an extremely important trait for us. It's nowhere near as true for women. If anything, people see shyness and timidness as more feminine. Don't get me wrong, I love it when girls are confident, it's a very attractive trait to me, but dating norms don't demand it anywhere near as much as for guys... A quick Google search would tell you that women want a confident man, who's charismatic and funny. Guys want that too, but a pretty girl is priority number one.