Many of you absolutely can gain fluency. I said nothing about tolerating being mocked. I said “consider that you ARE NOT being mocked, even tho it initially seems otherwise.” I guarantee you have facial expressions you are completely unaware of, and ones that others perceive as hurtful. I know i certainly do! I was once asked to give formal testimony at the Boston State House for the Healthy Workplace Bill proposed by David Yamaha (bc I had experienced extreme treatment at a job). So I understand that which we are discussing. I also learned the definition of gaslighting. The useful one. It helps *no one* to suggest gaslighting or lack of empathy when someone lays out another possibility to a complex situation.