commentr/StutterSeptember 20, 2021

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33/M here. It's always going to be hard, but it gets easier. The older you get, the more you realize that people are generally nice. They'll wait for you to finish, and won't look down on you for stuttering. Some people still won't get it and might be mean, but (excuse my language) fuck 'em. They're in the minority of people who you meet throughout your life. My advice is, advertise your stuttering. Let people know up front that you have a stutter, and that it may look or sound weird but everything is ok. It won't be easy to do this at first, but eventually you'll get better at it (I have it in my work email signature now). Advertising isn't for everyone, so it's ok if you don't feel comfortable with it. If you don't know what to do, ask yourself why you feel your stutter is holding you back. Are there specific moments that you can think of? Drill down to really specific instances (eg. that one time at the grocery store), and see if you can figure out why you feel the way you do (eg. why did I feel embarrassed?). Maybe write it down or say it out loud to make it more tangible than just a thought. Once you understand the reason why something happens, it can lead to finding solutions quicker. And finally, you said something really important: there's nothing wrong with having a speech impediment. That's something I didn't learn until much later in life (honestly, within the past couple years). A lot of speech therapy is about "curing" or "reducing" your stutter, rather than accepting it. I think a bit of both is the best remedy: reduce where you can, accept where you can't. Hopefully something I've said helps. I can only share my own experience and what has helped me. Let me know if you want more advice or guidance.

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Emotional ExperienceSocial & RelationshipsIdentity & Disability

Subthemes

Hope & MotivationDisclosure & Telling OthersIdentity & Self-PerceptionAcceptance & Pride

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intimidation_authoritysocializing_one_on_onesocial_pressure