> 1) let’s not BS ourselves, we have an obvious disadvantage when we are assessed. We have to do the job better and work harder to be seen at the same level. That’s maybe not fair but it’s the reality I get the point obviously, but to play devils advocate... my father drilled this idea into me when I was young, and as a child, it did way more harm than good for me. It just made me feel more broken and inferior. It wasnt a motivation tool, or a reality check as he intended. I just put that much more pressure on myself and I was so desperate to fix my stutter that it really fucked me up and I have spent decades after trying to fix this. YMMV.