postr/StutterSeptember 28, 2024

Anyone else kind of get away with using lots of filler/substitutions?

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Anyone else kind of get away with using lots of filler/substitutions? I used to fear stuttering and think about it 99% of the time. Like nearly 100% consumed with constant fear and negative feedback loop, leading to constant stuttering. The typical really bad stutterer story that many of us share, where we can't communicate anything. Then I started to disassociate from the "perfect speech" in my head, and started to accept that lots of filler words is better than saying nothing. Gradually I realised that most people just want to hear what you have to say. Sometimes I feel like a psychopathic robot when I speak, but with experience I see that others don't think that. They just think I'm quirky, which is better than thinking I have -50 IQ Fast-forward a year, I still struggle with the stutter, but I only think of it 5% of the time. I just use lots of filler. I've stagnated progress, and I can't voluntarily stutter yet, but I'm so grateful to be able to communicate effectively - but definitely not efficiently. It's been a positive feedback loop now instead. Anyone else experience this? Hope you're all hanging in there.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceEmotional ExperienceCoping & Advocacy

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Avoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentHope & MotivationFluency Techniques