I love a good acceptance post here. I am not religious but I don't think this message *requires* faith in God to work. I don't think this post is even pushing god. It's about faith in yourself that you and your best efforts are enough. It's enough that you nurture yourself to choose confidence. SLP never worked for me and you could not pay me to do that again. Speecheasy was a joke and family was so anticipating a cure. They feel guilty for my stuttering and maybe people made them feel it was their fault I don't know. I had to leave those expectations where they were so I could go on loving my family. I know they meant well but treatment is not for me. I am going to stutter no matter how much or how little treatment I get. It's no one's fault I stutter. It's not my fault. I tried and this may not be the story for everyone but I stutter just as much now as I did as a kid and the pattern of fluency is never clear. The serenity prayer can get some downvotes anywhere but I appreciate this sentiment. I am going to share a story about the things we can't change. I walked into a takeout restaurant and folded my umbrella by the door. The owner asked how I was and I just said "I hate the rain...." Getting my money out. I wasn't very positive that day. This man laughed! At me! I didn't even stutter! (Lol sarcasm, laughter gets me through!) He said "Oooh you hate the rain huh? Do you think it's raining because the sky hates you or something?" I had to say of course not and laughed too. He said "You really shouldn't hate anything .. but the rain?! The rain isn't thinking about you at all. It's not raining for any human reason. Don't waste your time being angry at the things God has made. Complaining about the rain will not make it stop, so don't complain!" I said he was right as he gave me my food he said "now go enjoy the rain!" I didn't unfurl my umbrella just thanked him and hustled to the car. Dude waved at me smiling as I backed out to go home. Sometimes I am not amendable to advice like this but the restaurant guy and this post made a compelling point. Accept the things you can't change, be brave enough to change what you can and try to be wise enough to know which things you have the power to change and which you may never change. Don't beat yourself up. If I went on with SLP I would not be living in my life's wisdom. I would just have kept kicking myself when I'm already down and feeling like that I would truly stutter a lot more. If there are things you can change, try...do it. If your most sincere efforts, the most true effort your heart can muster do not make the change it may be time to try acceptance. Acceptance is not throwing in the towel. You still have to work on acceptance every day. Every time I stutter at work on the phone I think about the fact I cannot change it and it's not worth ruining my day feeling bad about it. I also can't change other people and their ignorance or cruelty. Acceptance is not failure it's a finish line of it's own and takes much work to get to true acceptance. Again thank you for your post.