Bro you’re you’re spot on with literally everything you said. That’s what has ruined my life up till now.. my inability to deliver my words in a way that’s socially attractive. With my stutter most times I can only deliver my words based off what I can get out the easiest. The option to focus on charm, or humor, or intelligence simply isn’t there. In the same boat as you with women as well. I’m basically living like an incel despite getting plenty of attention from women over the years (college and work). The story goes the same way every time. Girl gives obvious (sometimes extremely obvious) signals every time we cross paths. I avoid interaction/acknowledgment consistently each time until eventually she just loses interest/becomes unbothered. It’s nothing short of emotional torture.