I totally agree it’s not a helpful observation. At the same time, I try to avoid getting hung up on the insensitive comments other make about me. Focus on the intention as no one is perfect. In high school this friend of mine was defending me from bullies by telling them I’m really book smart. I then lashed out at her for “justifying” my worth rather than accept that she was trying to stick up for me. Obviously, we shouldn’t be bullied or mocked regardless if we have other redeeming qualities. At the same time, I still feel bad for lashing out at a friend for not being mature or not having the wisdom at the time to “properly” defending me. If the relationship is important, acknowledge their positive intention and help them understand how those comments can hurt rather than encourage you.